Tuesday, November 09, 2010
I chased her until she caught me - I was 19, she 18 - old by historical standards.
She married someone who was responsible and could support her and her children: she was a clever girl.
She wanted children: I was clueless on the matter (except for how they might be created).
She never worked outside the home unless absolutely necessary.
She always had her finger on the pulse of the whole family: kids, parents, life.
She bore the laughter, ridicule and chiding of the modern moms for being so foolish.
We were poor so she couldn't dress like the modern moms or have what they had.
But our kids had all the love and support they wanted when they needed it - and still do.
They watch how we did it... they saw the process. It wasn't always pretty.
My liberal family clucked over the misery I would suffer for being so stupid as to marry so young.
Did we struggle? Did we cry? Was it hard? Did it hurt? Did we give up ourselves for us?
What do you think?
Times have changed... decades passed - but we're still here.
Modern mom no longer zips by in that fancy work car.
Our modern mom friends are divorced a time or two: lost to time.
The drugs, parties and alcohol have taken their toll.
Their children are lost too - on their own in the wilderness - its so hard to be modern.
All their modern daughters have their own babies now.
Modern means you don't need a man for anything but fun.
But that's okay, the daughters are free. Their mommies told them they would be.
Free to live at home with modern mom so modern mom can watch the baby while they go to bars.
Are they really free?
The daddies are lost to drugs, to self, to their children - they are cast off.
The daddies are free too - it would seem. From responsibility, and love, and caring.
We find the lost children along the side of the road now; we help them if we can.
And our own children have children of their own now.
Some are modern, some are not...
Tears fill our eyes as hundreds of thousands years of humanity and true freedom are cast off...
For a few modern slogans.
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Posted by John Gault at 5:08 PM